Does Relationship Counseling Really Work? At Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, Brandon FL, Riverview FL, Valrico FL, Seffner FL, and Hyde Park FL.

Relationship Counseling

If you are reading this blog, you may find yourself wondering…does relationship counseling really work? Perhaps you are considering relationship counseling for the first time, or maybe you’ve had some previous relationship counseling experiences that have been discouraging or disheartening.

Many couples have some reservations about going to relationship counseling in Tampa FL, Brandon FL, Riverview FL, Valrico FL, Seffner FL, and Hyde Park FL. Here are some common myths and misconceptions about relationship counseling.

Common Myths and Misconceptions about Relationship Counseling:

• Myth: We have to be on the brink of divorce to go to relationship counseling. 

Truth: Couples often do even better in counseling when they seek help before they are on the brink! When couples can still identify their strengths and express love to each other, they are primed to work on the tougher challenges of life. Even if you are on the brink but still think there are reasons to stay together, relationship counseling can be beneficial.

• Myth: My partner is the problem!

Truth: Many couples are in an unhealthy dance with each other, and when both partners start addressing their side of the dance, the relationship improves. (Note: there are relationships where one partner is primarily responsible for the disconnect - see examples below under “indicators of unsuccessful marriage therapy”). 

• Myth: Our love should be enough. 

Truth: Love in a committed, long-term relationship requires nurturing and attention. Even if your original feelings of love were strong, it is very normal to find yourself needing to adjust communication or connection patterns as you age and your relationship reaches new stages. 

• Myth: Our relationship is fine just as it is.

Truth: If there are indicators that your relationship is NOT fine (e.g., affairs, high conflict, emotional distance), it may be that you and/or your partner are in a state of denial about how disconnected you are. Honesty about what is affecting your relationship in a negative way can be a huge first step toward healing. 

If you resonate with any of the myths or just feel skeptical about relationship counseling in Tampa FL, Brandon FL, Riverview FL, Valrico FL, Seffner FL, and Hyde Park FL, in general, there is good news! According to the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, the success rate of relationship counseling is around 70%. Research also shows that couples who seek out therapy increase their chances of staying together and report improved communication and connection with each other.  

Indicators of Successful Marriage Therapy

• Increasing levels of commitment to the relationship

• Increasing empathy

• Increasing emotional connection

• Setting aside quality time with each other to connect and work through challenges

• Improving communication that includes curiosity about the partner’s thoughts, feelings, and perspectives

Indicators of Unsuccessful Marriage Therapy

• Low levels of commitment by one or both partners

• Underlying issues of abuse, infidelity, addictions, or other unresolved mental health concerns

• Communication roadblocks (Gottman suggests that criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling are the "four horsemen" that contribute to a failing relationship)

• Couple doesn’t feel their therapist is a good fit or doesn’t understand their particular story or concerns

If you are interested in trying relationship counseling for the first time, Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, Brandon FL, Riverview FL, Valrico FL, Seffner FL, and Hyde Park FL, would love to support you. If you have had some negative experiences with relationship work in the past, we would love to address what went wrong and work with you to reach your goals.